Happiness

Anonymous

I believe that things in your life happen for a reason. You can choose to see the negative side of a bad situation or you can look at the positive side. Having to overcome these obstacles takes a lot of strength but in the long run it'll be worth it. Sometimes i just remind myself that i am fortunate enough to have what i have, the people around me and nature itself. Reminding myself that there are others in the world that are in a greater deal of struggle than i am makes me grateful, even though my life seems to be going downhill I am grateful to be where i am

Anonymous

If you are feeling really lost, depressed, rejected and tired of life, REMEMBER that there is more to this life than eating, drinking, sleeping and working or even going out to parties etc.... Jesus is the only way to God, true happiness and the fulfilmant you have been looking for, He is the TRUTH in this LIFE when you cant trust what ppl say to you, TRUST in HIM!, and His is the LIFE (eternal) that we want! :)

The Lord JESUS is with and closer to you than you realise ---> reach out your HANDS to JESUS ------------------------------>

******************************************* SAY THIS OUT LOUD AND IN PRIVATE (your bedroom) :)

Dear God in heaven, I come to you in the name of Jesus. I acknowledge to You that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the life that I have lived; I need your forgiveness.

I believe that your only begotten Son Jesus Christ shed His precious blood on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am now willing to turn from my sin.

You said in Your Holy Word, Romans 10:9 that if we confess the Lord our God and believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we shall be saved.

Right now I confess Jesus as the Lord of my soul. With my heart, I believe that God raised Jesus from the dead. This very moment I accept Jesus Christ as my own personal Savior and according to His Word, right now I am saved.

Thank you Jesus for your unlimited grace which has saved me from my sins. I thank you Jesus that your grace never leads to license, but rather it always leads to repentance. Therefore Lord Jesus transform my life so that I may bring glory and honor to you alone and not to myself.

Thank you Jesus for dying for me and giving me eternal life.
Amen.


Hope you find this NOT ONLY helpful but the way out of BEING truly happy - its made me HAPPY too!! :)

Warm regards and sincerely,

Jo :)

Anonymous

The way I look at it is that if I am down I realise that there are always worse off people than ourselves. I could have been run off the road one day by a road train and after that my ex from my first marriage could have knocked me off but I am lucky to still be alive today. And now I have toddler son with kidney problems and a back problem and a hubby but we don't have a lot of money coming in. We thank our lucky stars that we have a roof over our heads and food on the table. :) And when I am down I use exercise to keep me sane and keep me positive otherwise I get depressed. Running, cycling and swimming seem to do it for me. I use cardio workouts to get rid of stress and get those endorphins working!

Kaitlin

get out and join boot camp groups or aqua aerobics, yoga, Pilates anything like that its a fun way of making yourself feel better being around others that are motivated and doing something good for your body. Staying active keeps you happy I always find that even when ive had the worst day or am grumpy going and training always put me in a happier mood!!

shree

we can stay happy thinking about the moments that we have achieved not only counting how much failure you have faced.
eventhough life is full of hardness imagine about the things also which make a big smile on your face.
so go for it

Kessa1959

I have positive friends and find that if I meet negative people I don't have a connection with them.
I also believe that I can't change things that happen however I can change my attitude to how I perceive them and always take a few minutes to breathe deeply before making decisions.
A lot of people think that things make them happy only to find that the more they buy the unhappier they become.

jenisweet

If you have good health you should be happy. Go and take a look in some of the children's hospitals and see what exists there and be thankful to God that you are in good health, that should make you happy.

Anonymous

Agee. It's quite the mental challenge however if u let go of all the negative things in your life it certainly helps

annie3

For me I personaly use the " power of positive thinking" to get me through the rough times and whatever comes my way, be that money problems or relationship issues I just focus on the positive side of things and block out the negatives.What you put out to the universe you will receive.

edna

It has taken me a long time to find happiness. I used to feel that it was wrong to be happy, that we were meant to suffer. I have now swung 180 degrees. I believe we can be happy that is it wrong to be miserable. I had to learn to like myself. I had to forgive myself and forgive others. I have had to open my eyes to the beauty of the earth. I have had to start seeing that if there is ugliness I could be making it. Animals are innocent but humans create trash, rubbish, chaos, disorder if they choose. That is the secret for me. I choose not to be negative. I think that to be really human I have to rise above violence, prejudice and be a social being. I have taken up meditation and that has helped to release the anger that I stored up over the years. For once I really believe I am getting somewhere. Maybe just in little ways but I can see a light at the end of the tunnel and each day gives me a new chance to wish a positive day for all of us.

Greta

I ask myself the same question every day!!
and then I stop and think well here we are today, after all the time over the past few years Ive asked myself this question which is better than nothing.
life goes up and down (more down for me) so i stop thinking about those hard things all the time and focus on the little simple things that DO make me happy :)

ozziedigger

well hoppy,i hope you`re happy now you`ve shared your pain amongst us all and i
hope everyone who commented are happier too.That`s the way it works, talk to people of like mind and you do feel better, but it`s much better if you can become
more independent and rely on yourself to find happiness,it`s out here,just come out and find it and wrap yourself in it.

Anonymous

If a person has a happy disposition to life they will inevitably be able to cope through the tough times... Often times do become difficult for us all... I find when that happens I concentrate on the good things in my life which weigh out the negatives, I surround myself with like minded happy people, remain busy with activities I enjoy and know that in time this period will pass and I will be back to feeling happy again. It is always good to remember there are plenty of people who are less fortunate than ourselves so we must make the most of life and what it has to give.

Jean Bean

I think the bigger issue is the emphasis we put on happiness and how we expect other people or physical things to make us happy. Life is hard and it seems to be getting harder with all the technological advances and pressures in society but noone and nothing can make us happy but us. It comes from within and we aren't meant to be happy all the time- that is a fantasy. I think it is important to find out what actually makes you feel happy and work with that.

Anonymous

one of the strongest partif person's life is his own Goal.
When it become achived that is the biggest part of his happyness.
Specially when it comes by hardwork tgan it feels more happy for person

Anonymous

iv read alot of people saying,to do volenter work,but you yourself need to be in the right head space, life is hard and as you get older it seems to get harder,but its all part of learning growing discovering who you are. you never stop learnin, you may be suffering from depression which is another thing that seems to be on the rise in this fast passed world we live in. sometimes you need to be selfish and only think of yourself take time out for your self. sitting at the beach on a lovely summer nite can be so relaxing. or you mite like to drive,sometimes getting away for a nite and staying in a motel a nite would give you time and space to think about your life plan of attack.

Anonymous

Not watching the news makes life feel lots better :D

donkey

Happiness is a state of mind, to be happy, you must enjoy what you are doing with friends and family, recieving and giving, these actions bring Happiness when applied with love, even in bad times we can create happiness by helping others in greater need than ourselves.

tassiegirl

Concentrate and focus on the things that are good in your life, eg good health, your family, your job, your pets, your house, your hobbies. I try not to focus on the negative things but to spend time with your family and friends and spend time exercising and keeping yourself busy. You can always pray to God in any situation & he will help us.

Truongster

When people get me down or just would pay the attention of what their say or tell them off. But if it someone problem and it affect me i may try to not make it affect me in anyway. but always think positive.

schnitzel

Yep it's gratitude. I found the 365 Gratitude project really hit it home for me. I don't take the photos but I find I am looking for the gratitude in my life daily and rarely does a day go past ........and it is always the little things!

annie

I FIND STAYING HAPPY IS TO be with family and friends who enjoy your company I am from a close knit family and have iinstilled in my children the fact that family is important

donkey

have a job you enjoy doing. And if your doing a job you dont enjoy maybe its time to change. Sometimes the job you dont enjoy but pays enough for not only all the bills but a considerable savings isnt necessarily better than the job you enjoy doing which pays the bills and provides a little savings... they do say money cant buy happiness, and in some cases it is true, money can buy alot of things, but if you dont enjoy your job and you spend 30 - 40 hours a week doing it then money really cant help much.

Anonymous

yes the best things in life are free until the goverment decides a way to tyax us on it arn't u glad we don't have to pay tax for wear and tear of the footpaths gosh I would be broke I walk everywhere let us run the country instead oif the goverment we would do a better job

RainbowSpirit

Staying happy and being happy can sometimes be difficult with the lives we choose to live. I have suffered depression in silence and still find it hard to admit to close family members as they believe it is just a phase and it will pass. I have read many self help books and spiritual books to ground myself, to find some inner peace with the turmoil that was happening and it is about surrounding yourself with positive people and saying affirmations of a morning, (for example) and treating yourself once a week with a massage, a lovely meal, or whatever it is you enjoy to do. I also do yoga, which is therapeutic for the soul. Everyone is different though and it is up to you what it is you like to do and to follow through with it.

Anonymous

You make the best of what you have. Always look on the bright side. Life is what you make it and if you make it happy and loving your life and those around you pick up on these things and make them happy and loving as well. There is always someone in need of a hug and a smile.

typhoon

Happiness is a state of mind and not a destination.When i get out of bed, i say to myself that i choose to be happy today.I volunteer to help with people who have more problems than i do and in doing so find that my problems are not so bad. Is life getting hard or are our expectations getting higher and we get upset because our expectations are not being met. Life is not always easy but as they say "It is not the breaths we take but the moments that take our breaths away". I look for the moments and choose to be happy.

fos

I always think to myself that there is always somebody worse off then me, then I think of happy time i've had and it has worked for me even helped me get out of a bout of depression

riaria0203

I don't know about you, but I find happiness in resolving those issues that make my life so hard. Once that obstacle is tackled I feel immense relief and happiness in knowing that I have done well. I'm very competitive by nature so I find joy in my accomplishments.

Anonymous

For me, one of the best ways to be happy when things get rough is to pray and be faithful to God! Then after that focus on honing your talent and take action to practice and commit on doing them. In this way, you will be able to have your own achievements that will soon make you feel good about yourself and make you feel established.

Anonymous

For me, one of the best ways to be happy when things get rough is to pray and be faithful to God! Then after that focus on honing your talent and take action to practice and commit on doing them. In this way, you will be able to have your own achievements that will soon make you feel good about yourself and make you feel established.

Saffie

My point of view ... take it or throw it.

When I was down and out ... "friends" left only true friends stayed around - not many though.
I'm the type who would not want my family to know what problems I'm up to .. I kept everything to myself and closest of friends.

I smile everyday so no one knows I'm in trouble or having a problem.
Always smiling - sometimes for nothing - just to keep my spirits up.

8 yrs ago, I got into trouble at work ...
what did I do, counted my blessings ... n my hardship was way too low in percentage to even call it hard - for all the years God gave me happiness.
I tripped and fell ... and that woke me up that I've been too into myself and forgotten about others ... I took it as God's way of reminding me.

Just last year, I got kicked out of my rental place - that was about 6 weeks ago to b exact. No place to go, not many friends as I just relocated n as normal, didnt want my family to know.

No one at work knew until things were out of my hands to control. But I had been smiling so many of my colleagues thought that I was ok. Nope I wasnt - went through 4 weeks of roller coaster mood swings. But I believe in God and there is a saying:

Verily, along with every hardship is relief.

My FRIENDS kept kicking my butts not to slack, checking out on me everyday.
Saying words that the light is just at the end of the tunnel, U gotto keep on going.

The truth is believe ... keep Ur problems close to Urself, as possible ... have really sound good Friends around when U hv problems ... not problematic individuals.

No amount of $$ made me happy ... just believe that I could have that happiness back and friends who were always there for everything.

Now almost 6 weeks into my turmoil, I can proudly say I've been happy in my new accomodation since 2 weeks ago. My friends who kept in touch, could hear it from my voice and they are happy for me, as I am happy, God still loves me and gave me back this happiness from within.

jens

I have found this as well. Knowing that God loves you unconditionally really helps. Having a church family who will be there to support you when things are really hard makes a big difference. Knowing that you have people around that will be there for you and love you unconditionally. I also have found that God is faithful and you can trust him to take care of you. God provides for you the things you need to help you get through. Even little things that I have felt I need just turn up. Another helpful idea is to find a mentor that will listen and pray for you each week. Each week let this person know what you are finding hard and pray. Knowing that people are praying for you is a real blessing and gives you strength to keep going. Keep trusting and know you are loved.

Anonymous

My point of view ... take it or throw it.

When I was down and out ... "friends" left only true friends stayed around - not many though.
I'm the type who would not want my family to...

I'm Sorry you have been going through hard times, I am glad you have God in your life, He is my strength to carry on when I am feeling weak. Reading the Bible helps Isaiah and Proverbs are really good places to start when you are low. I don't know if you go to church or not, but I have found the people in my church to be amazing support.
Another way to help is to exercise, even a 5 min walk to start off with can help, build it up to 20 mins a day or even every second day.
Keep strong in your faith

bren

There is probably no single answer. Some of the suggestions so far could help in some circumstances.
Another suggestion is to see a counsellor, wipe away your preconceptions - you will be surprised how effective they can be. They do not solve your problems, but they do open you up to the possibilities that life has to offer, and help you find your way to achieving your goals and a fulfilling life.
You'd be surprised how much of our unhappiness is caused by negative self-talk. Try keeping a journal, and objectively look at what goes through your mind and how you feel. Chances are that you will see the lack of logic and inconsistencies in your self-talk and be able to replace them with more positive talk - you will start to feel a bit more optimistic about your future.

hellsiebear

Emotional state is a personal thing and it is up to you to find the joys and wonders of each day, every situation, within each person you encounter, and even how you feel about the weather or your finances. So often we focus on what we do not want in life that we forget to consider what it is that we 'do' want. Life will go on without you or I in it; this is part of the nature of the Universe. What it does for us is gives us circumstances and situations in order for us to develop a better understanding of what will make us happy and give us a greater feeling of joy by showing us things that are in contrast. It is through this contrast that each of us has the ability to take a look at the situation, person, or event, judge it, guage it against our feelings, and then to make a clear decision on what it is we want. You may not like the cost of living where you are, but you have the choices available to you to either move, improve your finances, or find new products and services that will benefit you and your family. When you continue to look at the bills without finding ways to pay them and decrease the next ones, you will find that your emotional state falls lower and lower and the bills seem to get higher and higher, while you struggle to pay them. You can feel happier and be happy by simply choosing to be happier and feel happier. If you need more help on how to do this, perhaps you could read 'Ask and It Is Given' by Ester and Jerry Hicks, or 'The Jackrabbit Factor' by Leslie Householder.

19chris51

I agree with you and by cricky can not give you an answer, I have a son with a terminal illness, we do not know how long he has,it is depressing and no one knows exactly how you feel,we moved, thinking, silly us ,things might be, more relaxed and he could enjoy his time,(near the water,dept housing)no such luck, things are getting harder,Dr put me on anti depressants which help a great deal,and in helping me me, it helps my son, because I cope better.
It does not make either of us any happier, but we can cope, just wish people were nicer

mcdl

Just briefly:
-find things that make you happy
-think happy, positive thoughts
-be around positive, encouraging, motivating people
-set small reasonable goals and just do it!
-for every negative thought, think of it in a different, positive way..(eg. the bus driver missed my bus stop when i pressed the button; i'll get off at the next stop and do some walking/exercise!) a small example but still relevant.

Anonymous

i agree with you totaly about being around people who only bring good carma into your life and about that other thing how can you be happy when life is geting hard, i found when life starts to get hard for me i reavaluate my life and i always find that its always bacuase i have taken on to much so i make my load lighter hope it helped you.

sue000

I too had a head injury in april 2002,and am slowly recovering, walking .talking writing and trying to remember things. I have been taking depression tablets since
2003 lately i had been thinking is it worth going on, a friend told me to have hope and try think positive ,so I have been trying to do that...I have my family but because its so hard to say the right words they get upset then remember that they must have patience with me..and i must have the same to them..
i often feel like im alone even though they are here.... as they dont understand one day beening healthy then the next learning everything again..
i have decided to write my feelings down in a journal and listen to soothing music to gain some hope and feel like im worthy to be here....
all the best to you... i go on facebook and play the games to help as well, maybe you should try that..

jud

I guess on the subject of happiness if you are feeling depressed and are trying to put on a brave face and some people seem to hit on your energy and relish in putting you down
I find sometimes meditation can make me feel better and grounded, and this makes me feel somewhat content and in control

Aura

I guess on the subject of happiness if you are feeling depressed and are trying to put on a brave face and some people seem to hit on your energy and relish in putting you down
I find sometimes...

Hi jud,
it is amazing how 'faking' feeling happy can actually turn into you truely feeling happy.

terribrown

Life itself has always been a hard slog!!!
However, we have choices - we can choose to be miserable or we can see how much better things are for ourselves personally in comparison to people who really are unfortunate.
The mere fact that we have the time and the means to be able to sit here and join in on chat forums says that we have the freedom to make good (or bad)decisions.
The sun is shining right now, and even when it is not - it will again.
Think about what is hard in your life -and make some changes.
Terri Brown

hoppy55555

Life itself has always been a hard slog!!!
However, we have choices - we can choose to be miserable or we can see how much better things are for ourselves personally in comparison to people who...

Life is very,very hard to understand.You say that we have choices,what happens if one day.You wake up.All you can hear is this BEEP-BEEP-BEEP-BEEP.You can not see anything,you can not move.The pain in body and your head is really painful.After months of hospital and you learn to talk again.You find out that you have been run over by a car,and spent the last 11 months asleep in a coma.I am still learning and making mistakes after 20 years.Thank you for your reply.

woodie

I find the best way to stay happy is surround yourself with people who make you laugh and if there is anyone who uses you or brings you down, get them out of your life.I also find that Volunteer Work is a good way to help forget problems and you get to see the good in people. I know from personal experience how helpful this can be.

jens

I find the best way to stay happy is surround yourself with people who make you laugh and if there is anyone who uses you or brings you down, get them out of your life.I also find that Volunteer...

i agree surrounding yourself with bright encouraging positive people who will listen makes a big difference.

Wen

I find the best way to stay happy is surround yourself with people who make you laugh and if there is anyone who uses you or brings you down, get them out of your life.I also find that Volunteer...

I am generally a happy person. The ultimate to me is spending time with my little 4 footer. He gives unconditional love

hellsiebear

I find the best way to stay happy is surround yourself with people who make you laugh and if there is anyone who uses you or brings you down, get them out of your life.I also find that Volunteer...

Gratitude for all things in life is the way to go. Within the most horrid of situations there is something that is waiting to teach us new ways, new ideas on how to improve. By training yourself to look for the positive always, you will indeed find greater joy in life. If someone does upset your vibe...get them out of it. It is so simple yet as humans we find excuses and methods to complicate it all. Volunteering is a perfect way to give your entire self a boost. Even the likes of Jack Canfield (best selling author of 'Chicken Soup for the Soul' and 'Success Principles') continues to volunteer his services to others. He publically endorses it as a true way to get up out of a slump and feel better for yourself, by helping others.