Bonding

skp

It is so true of the little ones, they only want their Mum, they are insecure without them especiallynifmthey are off colour. Shows what a good Mother you must be that they are comforted by you. Dads are usually tired when they get home from work, but if your husband could just relieve you for an hour when he does get home that will give you enough time to get everyone fed so you can get them off to bed and have some time for you and hubby. Would be great if he could bath them while you are doing dinner, good bonding time for them all. I know it seems like it will never end but this is such a short time. Make sure yiu are eating well to keep your energy up.

ree

i have a 22 mth old, he does mostly come to me, but thats to be expected when i'm the primary carer. my husband and i make sure theres special things for him and our son to do together. like taking him to bed every night, or piggy back rides before bed.

Anonymous

May if he interacted with them on weekend when not so tired which will also give the kids something to look forward to

Anonymous

will im meaning to be mean but it sonds to me that u have done everything why he has done nothing otherwise they wouldnt mind going to him for things iknow this cause my kids do the same he needs to be more invovled even if he is tired whats wrong with sitting down with them watching a movie or whatever he needs to get involved then u will soon see the change

trix56

I have to agree with everyone else. When my kids were young Dad worked and studied part time as well. But on the nights he was home he bathed them.
Also, her took one or two night feeds on the weekend. He - like me - spent more time on the night feeds because it was the best time to share some bonding.

Anonymous

I reacon Willy is right
Could he bath them ? then its a fun time, and he can develop special things to do ( my Dadmade a great deal out of cleaning behind our ears, he called them the dirty dustbins !) or saying 'this little Piggy' while he is drying their toes.
as they get older the may change and only want Daddy, but being a parent id not about winning the popularity contest !
Helen

Anonymous

Hi there, I agree with the previous post also. We have a 6 month old girl and hubby is the fulltime worker. He comes and helps with bath everynight so he can get some connecting time with her as thats all he sees of her during the week. I think your partner needs to find at least one thing to do with the children a night so they are used to him and gives u a little break to.

Willy

Hi there iam a father of 3 and work long hours. Our youngest is 5 weeks old and oldest is 5 years old. No matter how tired i am i try to do some activities with the kids , even if it's just a puzzle or colouring in. This is important for both the kids and the wife to get some downtime. I do feel for your husband but he will regret it in later years if he doesn't spend quality time with the kids and give you a break. In saying this though most kids do go through a period of only wanting mum , so you both need to work together to make it easier for the both of you

Anonymous

Hi there iam a father of 3 and work long hours. Our youngest is 5 weeks old and oldest is 5 years old. No matter how tired i am i try to do some activities with the kids , even if it's just a...

kia ora, Willy, good on you.
We have 6 children, and I know you are dead right.