Pregnancy late teens and early 20's
Posted by: honeybee
22nd Aug 2012 09:24am
I am the obly one left out of all my friends to have children, I am currently 22yrs old, I want children when i am about 27/28 because I want to Travel first, I have alot of pressure from my pairs to hurry up before I get to old, I do have a plan but feel pushed out of the "group" because im the odd one out.... What should I do???
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squeekums
Stick to your plan
I was VERY HAPPY to be aunty squeekums until my surprise daughter came along when I was 22. I feel a sense of loss at times cos I didnt get to travel, set myself up anything.
If you dont want kids dont give in to the pressure. Try making some different friends if possible. Hard I know but even if it just one friend thats not in the group it gives you an area that not all you must have kids blah blah
Just so you know it dont stop once you have one either. For 3 years since she born all I got so when number 2
My responce NEVER! lol
Good luck!
Anonymous
Make sure you are ready and not doing it just to fit in......I'm pregnant with my first and I'm 27 and I'm glad I have done everything i wanted before hand, I look at my friends who all had kids young and the regret not traveling and seeing the world, they love their kids but wish they had waited that little bit more. Again thou this is only a question you and your partner can make. Do what is right for you...good luck with the future
Anonymous
I have four beautiful children and I had the first when I was 19
I believe when you are financially sound is the best time to have a child
you should not jst have a child because a friend/s are pressuring you
enjoy your life and travel as when you have a baby travel is almost impossible
tana
Do what you want to do. Its your life. Live life to the fullest I say.
Anonymous
Having a child is a big responsibility, if you have things you want accomplish first definately do them. This is a life changing event (very happy 1 at that) it should not be a decision made by feeling pressured by peers.
teegz
Im 20 years old and have a 5 month old baby boy that I love more then words can say but I wish I had of waited until I was about 24 because even tho I love my son it does get hard so I say good on you for waiting
mizim
I'm 24 and have 3 kids. I'm the only one out of my friends (not that I have many) who has children.
At the end of the day, you need to do what makes YOU happiest. And if your friends can't support you, then perhaps it's time to see less or not see them at all...
Anonymous
I am 21 years old and I have a soon to be 3 yea old daughter. I think your plans are fantastic, go travel experience life, because once you settle down it is hard to get out and do the things you would like to do once you have a child. If your friends are pressuring you to have a baby, maybe they are just jealous that you can still d all the things that you want to do :)
Anonymous
i understand where you are coming from because i am the same except that i have been pregnant twice and because of all the stress that my freinds put me through i had miscarriages and i am currently pregnant at the moment except no one nows but its really up to you what you do and dont let your friends tell you what to do it will be when you are ready to have children
Anonymous
Completely agree with ninaz. And good luck with your pregnancy hope it all goes according to plan! Don't stress, enjoy this pregnancy! :)
rosie
Let me put it more sound i guess, your friends are always gonna be your friends, when its your time to really have children it will be your decision not just based on all your friends having one so you have to.
rosie
First of all, no human functions the same, im sure your friends probably wish they were in your shoes for a day trust me :P. Dont rush children i f you feel you only need them because you feel left out is wrong, and if you want children its because of yourself not anybody or to not feel left out of the group.
Mmm...coffee
Having a baby is a huge life-changing experience! You should take that step when you are ready - not when your 'friends' tell you to!
Mmm...coffee
Having a baby is a huge life-changing experience! You should take that step when you are ready - not when your 'friends' tell you to!
Anonymous
U need to do what u feel is right, there will bealot of changes but if they are real freinds they will always make time for u.
I had my son at 20 and am now pregnant with my little girl and i will be 23 when she is born. Having children seems to be more a fashion statment theys days.
I have medical problems, so the doctord advised me to have children now, and thankfully i had a loving patrner.
Also having children is bloody hard work and takes alot of time. And u change, wether u mean to or not. Ur mentality changes about everything, money, working, friends and family, its not something to rush into.
Do whats best for u chick.
Gee
Raising a child takes a lot of commitment and time. Dont be preassured into having children if you are not ready yet. You still have plenty of time.
Anonymous
I was 21 when I had my daughter I wasnt ready to have a baby cause I knew everything about my style of living will have to change. Having kids is a big responsiblity and you are within your own rights to choose when. Do not let others choose for you. The world is your oyster xplore live life to the max. for all you know your friends probably envy you. I love being a mum no doubt and someday when you are ready you will too juss imagine all the storys you will tell your children about the places you have been the people you have met and perhaps how you met there father.......
Anonymous
How can they be your true friends if they are pishing for you to do sonething you dont really want just yet.. When someone says something just light heartedly reply " i like being 'aunty' for now, I get to enjoy your beautiful children at the best of times and give them back at the worst haha" or along those lines.
Do not have a baby because everyone else is. I had one at 18 I love him to peices but I miss our on a lot.
Anonymous
do what you you want not what thay want. be your own person ok you have lots of time. trust me i know what that pressure feels i was just 17 whan i had my first