Sharing a baby shower - yes or no?...
Posted by: bydesign
5th Mar 2011 03:45pm
In 6-8weeks I have two girlfriends due to give birth (they're 2weeks apart). Another mutual g/friend suggested we organise a little soiree (I usually end up hosting such events). My only issue though is for one of the girls its her 1st baby, the other its her 2nd. While they are both friends & so have some mutual friends, I feel like we're doing a little disservice to the first-time mum-to-be (who's having a girl - yippee!), while my other girlfriend has sort of been-there-done-that (I threw her a shower for her 1st) and while I know (the latter) will say she doesn't want a shower I think she'd be a little hurt if we have a baby shower that's not for her...
Whilst both are gorgeous & gracious, is it fair to the first-time-mum-to-be to have to share such a special day?
How do I navigate my way thru this one without hurting anyone's feelings?...
Whilst both are gorgeous & gracious, is it fair to the first-time-mum-to-be to have to share such a special day?
How do I navigate my way thru this one without hurting anyone's feelings?...
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Anonymous
Keep it simple and special as it should be. After all it is all about the joy and excitement of a new family member. If they are happy to combine, why not. Just to celebrate with your friends should be enough. Maybe mention to who you invite to keep the presents low key for the night. If they want to make a fuss of the first time mum they can do it in private at another time when it may be more appropriate.
shilto02
I'm due with my second soon. My friends threw me a baby shower with my first and now are wanting to throw me another one. I keep telling them its not needed. I think a baby shower just with a first baby is totally fine and if it was me I would not be offended at all if a friend got a baby shower and I didn't get to have another one. I think we should celebrate first time Motherhood (you never get that experience of it being the first time ever again!) That said, if both friends agree then no harm done. Maybe just focus it a bit more on the first time Mum.
Anonymous
I totally agree. Things can get out of hand these days with everyone wanting and expecting everything all the time. A baby shower was intended to help set up the first-time parents with items that they may not know they need. It also celebrates that very special and exciting time of impending parenthood. Yes it is special each time but a shower is not necessary..they already have everything they need after the first. Time together to celebrate with friends is all that is needed. I didn't even get one let alone one for each child. Keep it simple after all it is about the joy of a new addition...not the gifts and attention !!!!!
delilah
I say throw a shower for both of them together. It doesn't matter how many kids you have each and everyone of them is a truly exciting event. And as we all know when we are pregnant all we want to talk about is being pregnant. I think the two new mums will have a great time sharing stories and the shower.
lionprincess
I think if both mum's to be are willing to share the shower, then go for it :)
I am due to have my second son in January and I never recieved a baby shower for my first, I would have no problems sharing my shower if it meant i got one! If your feeling like you need to do more for the first time mum to be, then maybe you could do the shared thing, but then have a smaller celebration for her another time. just a thought.