Chinese Whispers
Posted by: elljay
31st Mar 2016 12:59am
If you knew your best friends or family members partner was playing around on them. Would you tell them. Yes/ No and why?
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Adrienne30317592
I did tell a friend her husband was cheating on her . She got angry with me - told me i was jealous and not to tell her lies so i could have him (Believe me he was no catch and i told her this). She confronted him - he lied they cut me off - a few weeks later she discovered my 'lie' was in fact truth - and left him BUT she still does not speak to me.. SO NO i would not tell. BUT i would want to know.
bluehoney
Yes l would tell them in person. The reason I would do that, because if it was me, l would want them to tell me.
PROBIN
YES - How would a person change in behaviour if not for social dissaproval?
No comment means no change and no improvement. Need not be aggressive but does have to be truthful and open to change for the better.
angry mum
I wouldn't hesitate to tell them. It would be unfair not to let them know. No-body wants to waste their time on someone who isn't in it for the longrun.
Nefertari
I think it would depend on the situation...some people (of which I am definitely one) would certainly like to know if it was true and not go on feeling that their partner loved them only to find out the opposite at a later date. Others though would prefer not to know.
Lukey23
Yes i would tell them that their partner is cheating on them, any longer period of time that this goes on, it would cripple the relationship. So its best to say it and hope for the best for them.
TheFatMan
Yes I would definitely tell my best friend or family member if their partner is cheating on them. Firstly you must be certain that you are their best friend, because it is not right for a person who you love and trust to cheat on you. When you let your friend know you have to be diplomatic about it and let them know that you have some suspicions. Do not go at it like a bull at a gate. Be gentle and kind to them.
stewy57
There is no winner whatever the choice. Someone is going to get hurt and most likely at least one of them will blame you for saying/not saying what is happening. Trust me
Zelda
I think it depends on the situation. You need to be absolutely sure that their partner is cheating on them first, before bringing up the topic. Your friend or family member might already have their suspicions. Some people will be glad that you told them; others will prefer that you never told them, and may even accuse you of making it up. In my case, I had had strong suspicions that my ex husband had been cheating on me for some months, before he left me. After he'd moved out, a friend told me that my husband had been cheating on me with an older woman at work. Even though I'd had my suspicions, I was still devastated when my suspicions were confirmed.