I want a baby
Posted by: Greta
24th Oct 2012 04:14pm
I have recently been feeling an overwhelming urge to have a baby!
I am only 20 (21 in a 2 months) my fiance is 25, we live together with our dog.
We have talked about having a baby in a few years and I dont know why exactly but I really really want one now :(
We arent in our ideal financial situation, but I dont know if we ever will be.
What are evryones thoughts? please help me put my head together :)
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Anonymous
Hi there :). I am 29 years old, married and ended up having a baby Jan 2012 and another bub Nov 2012. It took us 5 years to fall pregnant. We are certainly not in the financial position to have 2 bubs but when is anyone unless you are born into money. I believe that if you and your partner are happy and that you can manage on one wage for a while then go for it. It's the best thing that ever happened to us. Yes bub no. 2 was a surprise but a very welcomed one. She came 7 weeks early so we had numerous medical bills to pay aswell but we survived and are still here to tell the story.
The urge to have a baby is intense I understand that. It may happen straight away or it may take time. Just make sure that both you and your partner are on the right page and you get that this decision will alter the rest of your life.
Anonymous
My names Timothy. I am 22 and currently engaged. I have a son who is almost 2. My advice to you is simple. Weigh up your pros and cons, see where you and your partner are are at in your relationship. Discuss what your career goals and aspirations are and if they arent reached, how long is needed. But importantly start getting the neccessities while you wait. It helps alot with the cluckiness of wanting a kid. Also bring your partner along, get him involved. May help sway his decision.
Anonymous
My names Timothy. I am 22 and currently engaged. I have a son who is almost 2. My advice to you is simple. Weigh up your pros and cons, see where you and your partner are are at in your relationship. Discuss what your career goals and aspirations are and if they arent reached, how long is needed. But importantly start getting the neccessities while you wait. It helps alot with the cluckiness of wanting a kid. Also bring your partner along, get him involved. May help sway his decision.
Kie
i am a mother of 7,i was 17 when i had my 1st,i am 41 now.My youngest is 7.During this time i was a single mum on & off.Yes it was hard,even testing at times,tough when i had to be both mum & dad,id find myself tryin to work out how a dad should act.How should i no,im a mum & a great 1 at that.You will no when the time is right,wait awhile if your not 100% & only if Mr Right(your soulmate)is wth you.2 things i did notice about myself having children so young i got to grow up wth them,i did feel strong conections to them,i felt ill if they had had a fall or a fever,they would be away & id no something wasnt right. i did everything wth my kids,if they cldnt go well we stayed at home.the 2nd thing i appreciated my babies more the elder i got,i had forgotten simple things.i wldnt change a thing.We are here to nurture,so when your ready go for it,enjoy it all,time goes to fast.lots of love,kisses,hugs,laughter,memories,photos plus family & friends to share these moments wth you.Good luck
Semc
Hi there, I am a mother of a three month old I am 18 & my partner is 21. Our son wasn't planed even though we talked of kids in the future just didnt think it would happen so quickly and we deffinitely were not financially ready, we had our own house & both worked but who ever really is 100% ready. I think it's normal to want a baby ASAP or three four years down the track it isn't bad although you do give up a lot of things and I never regret my son but I wish my partner and I waited a bit longer just so we were a bit more secure with everything. But in saying that if you feel like now is the time then why wait. I hope you can figure it out (:
Anonymous
Hi there...
Well it's very natural and to be a parent is a special feeling... I can understand your feelings as I share the same urge to become a dad now... It makes your relationship grow stronger and you get an extra responsibility but I recon that feeling of responsibility is always overwhelmed by the extravaganza of happiness that is confers... So thumbs up for all who are ready to take it...