Pregnancy & Parenting

Step Parents with Adult Children

Pregnancy & Parenting

Posted by: Ducati Ronni

4th Sep 2012 11:47am

Hi all, just wonering if anyone would like to share their experiences as a Step Dad or Mum. Being a Step Parent is a very hard job and in my experience people that I have come into contact with always have some sort of issues with their Step Parent History and seem to take it out on you if your a good Step Parent... Has anyone else had this experience. I want to share that it can be a good experience for all and try to dispell the myth that all Step Parents are evil.

Comments 2

Ally
  • 21st Sep 2012 12:20pm

Being a step parent can be very hard. In my experience I have found you need to be yourself and allow step children to be themselves, as well. It takes time to develop strong relationships so it is very important to tread slowly and carefully and to build trust between them and yourself. Showing you and your partner share the same values, attitudes as each other is important too. Allow the children's real parent do the disciplining, if it is required, and support his decisions as he should you in the disciplining of your own child/children. Showing you care, happy to be with them, are interested in their needs, hobbies, etc will translate into developing a good relationship over time.

lcca
  • 10th Sep 2012 11:52am

I am a step mum to a teenager girl. At first it was really hard especially I don't have a child my own but that doesn't give me a reason to be mad at her when she's not doing anything to help me with the houseworks when she can do it herself. She's with us on every weekends and all she does is reading, eating, sleeping, spend a lot of time on the internet and watching tv. When she need something or wanted to eat she'll ask me to do this and that or cook this and that. I do all the chores, even making her bed morning and night and sometimes I get upset so I don't do it instead my husband will do it for her. She's a messy type but I don't want to tell her what to do because she's not my kid and I don't want her to get upset of me but as time goes on I learned to adjust because she's not a bad kid at all. We don't argue, we only talk and laugh and sometimes we just keep our distance and doing some things that will give me reasons not to talk but I have never been rude or mean to her and so is she.

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