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2nd miscarriage and hoping for another baby

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Posted by: jen2973

17th Mar 2011 03:05pm

i need words of wisdom after having my 2nd miscarriage this time at 8ks last year i only got to 4wks, booking in to see the gyno in a few weeks needing help from other mums who have been through this before and are pregnate again.


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Laurena
  • 19th Mar 2015 09:32pm

I'm really sad for you, however don't give up hope! I just had my third miscarriage in a six year period, but I was pregnant four times giving birth to a healthy little girl after the 1st miscarry. After this I had 2more miscarriages. I am told after 3miscarriages my body may find it hard (not impossible) to conceive. Only because I had a clot in my cervix and nearly died. The docs will base your possibilities on your age and health. DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE! GOOD LUCK XO

Laurena
  • 19th Mar 2015 09:29pm

I'm really sad for you, however don't give up hope! I just had my third miscarriage in a six year period, but I was pregnant four times giving birth to a healthy little girl after the 1st miscarry. After this I had 2more miscarriages. I am told after 3miscarriages my body may find it hard (not impossible) to conceive. Only because I had a clot in my cervix and nearly died. The docs will base your possibilities on your age and health. DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE! GOOD LUCK XO

muckypaws
  • 19th May 2014 01:08pm

Oh hun, I know what you are going through. My Mum is a psychic and her words of wisdom still float in my head. A soul sometimes needs just a few more hours on earth to earn their wings and that may be the very reason this little one didnt stay, or there could be something terribly wrong that the Doctors have not picked up on yet. But do not fret, this little one wants to be with you, either guiding you or as a part of your life, either way you have not lost your child. Relax, stop stressing, and when the time is right you will be together properly.
My Son was born 2003, my Daughter 2009, lost 3 attempts inbetween. By the time My daughter finally stuck with me I just put it down to her being awkward, ie: dont like that birth date/hair colour/ body shape/whatever..... Bother are happy and healthy. Make sure your gut is healthy (take a probiotic) and relax and have fun, it will happen :-)

Flamingbitch
  • 19th May 2014 11:38am

I myself have had 4m/c over the years i have a 17yr old boy a 11yr old girl i then i had my 3rd m/c the first 2 were before the first kids.i was worried as id been diagnosed with bad endometriosis and told by the dr to give up. So i went got back to work then after 3mnths i fell pregnant with my now 3yr old. Always wanting 2 or 4 kids not an odd number so no ones left out i got to trying again im 35yrs myself by now finaly got pregnant only to lose at home at 10wks god it was painful. I feel blessed for my 3 but 4 would have been perfect. I am sorry for you and do realy understand. Goodluck for the future honey. I always tell myself they must of been to perfect for this earth and became instant angels to watch over us.

carmz85
  • 14th Apr 2014 08:38am

sorry to hear of ur loss, losing a baby is the worse thing in the world.

I had 2 boys when i mc our 3rd baby it was devastating, we were trying for a girl. i went for a u/s to check on the baby i was suppose to be a lil over 10wks but our baby passed away at 8wks and 6days. It took me a month to be myself again and even now i think of our angel every wk..

i waited a period and tried again and we had a healthy baby girl and we now have a 9month old boy. m/c are rough but it makes me more grateful of the babies i have..

Anonymous
  • 14th Mar 2014 12:36pm

I have 2 teenage daughters and had 3 miscarriages 1 in between my daughters and 1 last year and 1 the year before it can be the most hardest time in a womans life I should know it near ended my marriage my 2 daughters are from a previous relationship and my last 2 miscarriages have been with my husband so we went to ivf and found I have a lazy ovary so I was told never give up it will happen if its meant to be I am now 36 and determined to be a mum again so never give up I wont be

Anonymous
  • 16th Jul 2013 01:17am

Yes, miscarriage is hurtful especially on mentally. I had depression for very long time and sometimes I'm still thinking of that little creature just dispared from your body. My mum and my sister are never had miscarriage although they are mum but that feelings that make you sick to stomach they never felt it. I have been through from miscarriage then operation for check tubes, found out they are both blocked, then more depression, then try ivf finally I have got pregnant at first cycle and I felt so lucky and so mean to be that now I have my precious baby boy 3 month 2 weeks now.

Mrs_s86
  • 13th Jun 2013 07:03am

I had two miscarriages before I had my son- I miscarried the first just shy of four months the second i was pregnant with twins and lost them at four and a half months. To this day I still think about the babies I lost. I have my little boy now and wouldn't change it for anything. A lot of people don't understand the feelings behind a miscarriage. But it's exactly the same as losing a child after birth, the only difference is we never got to hold our babies.
Never give up hope of having a child. There is something the doctors can do after having a miscarriage, I can't remember what it's called but it cleans the insides completely. I never got it done though, the doctors checked me and told me that it happened that quickly it looked like I wasn't pregnant at all.

lisa170
  • 12th Feb 2013 12:34pm

I had a missed miscariage last year. Bubs died at 9 weeks and I didn't find out until my 12 week scan. It was my first pregnancy and the only sign was that my morning sickness just stopped. I'm at 10 weeks 3 days right now with my 2nd pregnancy and feel horrid a lot of the time. Its not so much morning sickness but more late night sickness but I'm clinging on to it with everything I have. My 12 week scan is in 13 days and I'm scared as hell. Its really hard to stay positive but you just have to keep reminding yourself that statistics are in your favour. I want more than anything not to obsess and get attached but I just can't help it. No matter how early its still your baby and you love it soooooo much from the second you know it exists. The most helpful for me has been starting a blog. There is a whole community of people out there going through similar stuff and they have so much love and wisdom to share.
Good luck. I hope you get your sticky baby.

Lynstar59
  • 3rd Dec 2012 11:09am

My sympathies for your loss. I to have lost several babies through miscarriage & I thought it was the most hearth wrenching experience that I would ever have to go through, that was before I lost a child. Our children are not meant to die before us - as parents. Although I lost my son many years ago there is still a hole in my heart that I am unable to fill. I had children both before & after the loss of my boy. Please,please never go to bed angry with your child's' behavior, tell them every opportunity that you get that you love them, for they are the most precious gift that you can ever receive in your life. They do not belong to you but they are on loan to you & they need to be returned as you received them - Perfect.

Jen
  • 1st Oct 2012 11:28am

I am so sorry for your loss. I also had two miscarriages and lost my first son to SIDS so I understand how you may be feeling. Don't give up or lose hope. Miscarriages are very common and I looked at it as though my baby was not ready to come into this world yet and when he or she did it would be a very special little boy or girl. I now have four beautiful children who are my inspiration and love more each day. Look forward to the joy you will have when your little one arrives and stay positive!

Jen
  • 1st Oct 2012 11:28am

I am so sorry for your loss. I also had two miscarriages and lost my first son to SIDS so I understand how you may be feeling. Don't give up or lose hope. Miscarriages are very common and I looked at it as though my baby was not ready to come into this world yet and when he or she did it would be a very special little boy or girl. I now have four beautiful children who are my inspiration and love more each day. Look forward to the joy you will have when your little one arrives and stay positive!

Rainbow Girl
  • 21st Aug 2012 08:44am

After nine (yep nine) we finally had our gorgeous daughter Rosie. She's now nearly eight years old and has never had a single thing wrong with her. You never can tell how the cards of life will fall and for very single day that I thought that I would never survive the grief of another loss, my husband and I have now had as many of joy. Do what every you need to get you through but I would really recommend some form of counseling as it really helps.

Rainbow Girl
  • 21st Aug 2012 08:05am

After nine (yep nine) we finally had our gorgeous daughter Rosie. She's now nearly eight years old and has never had a single thing wrong with her. You never can tell how the cards of life will fall and for very single day that I thought that I would never survive the grief of another loss, my husband and I have now had as many of joy. Do what every you need to get you through but I would really recommend some form of counseling as it really helps.

Rainbow Girl
  • 21st Aug 2012 08:04am

After nine (yep nine) we finally had our gorgeous daughter Rosie. She's now nearly eight years old and has never had a single thing wrong with her. You never can tell how the cards of life will fall and for very single day that I thought that I would never survive the grief of another loss, my husband and I have now had as many of joy. Do what every you need to get you through but I would really recommend some form of counseling as it really helps.

Shelly
  • 22nd Apr 2012 03:43pm

Hi Jen, I feel for you & I know your sadness & pain but don't give up. I've had 4 m/c's. 2 of them happened before my son arrived. The next one happened through my 1st pregnancy...I was carry twins & lost one but my son survived. I then had another m/c about 3mths before I fell pregnant with my twin girls (yes...twins again). You are not alone even though you might feel so. Keep trying & make sure you listen & do what your Dr says...get other Dr's opinions too - maybe see a fertility expert & get them to check over everything...it can't hurt.

faerydoc
  • 20th Mar 2012 10:27am

Sadly, a miscarriage or two isn't that uncommon these days. Just remember, in days gone past if you had miscarried at 4 weeks you wouldn't have even known you were pregnant, so you probably wouldn't have known you miscarried. After two miscarriages you should definitely check to see if there is a reaon for this, but you need to know that there may NOT be anything 'wrong' with you - just nature taking its course. Hopefully your next pregnancy will work out. I know it hurts (emotionally) when it happens, especially when you desperately want a baby, but hopefully it will go well next time.

Good luck - I wish you all the best.

J J 55
  • 30th Jan 2012 06:04pm

I too have had two miscarriages in a row, one last year & one the year before. I am currently pregnant i'm nearly nine wks which is further than I got with the miscarriages, but bad morning sickness, is all going well so far.

J J 55
  • 3rd Apr 2012 03:48pm
hi neenee hi im now 25wks now i am so excited have past all the miscarriage marks yipee im dut the 3rd of july now 6 months and only have a tiny belly but it all feels awesome as i can everything...

hi jen, I am now 17 & a half wks now, can feel the baby moving around a lot, morning sickness has almost gone now, have been for my first antenatal appointment, she asked me if I wanted to have a natural birth or another ceaserean not sure which way to go yet. i had to have one with my son cause he was transverse lie, will have to talk to the doctor about which one is best for me

jen2973
  • 17th Mar 2012 01:04pm
I too have had two miscarriages in a row, one last year & one the year before. I am currently pregnant i'm nearly nine wks which is further than I got with the miscarriages, but bad morning...

hi neenee hi im now 25wks now i am so excited have past all the miscarriage marks yipee im dut the 3rd of july now 6 months and only have a tiny belly but it all feels awesome as i can everything this time around,how is your pregnancy praying and wisging for a safe pregnancy this time for you take care :)

jen2973
  • 22nd Dec 2011 12:34pm

hi evryone ive got some excellent news im pregnate at 12 weeks very excited, had my 11 week scan last week the babys development of the baby is awesome my son whos 5 couldnt stop smiling at his brother os sister was very quite, i also had the downs test which i was in the high risk range only due to my age but got the results back and im now in the low range yipee i can finally relax,looking forward to growing bigger and enjoying every moment dont give up hope if you have been trying for a while have a break relax and it will happen look what happened to me x :)

Loopie
  • 18th Aug 2011 10:07pm

I have suffer miscarriages and an Ectopic pregnancy, and the best advice I could give you, is don't blame yourself.
It would be wise to talk to your Doctor, as there could be an underlying cause. I found out years down the track that I had Lupus, and this could cause miscarriage problems.
Keep trying, ride the disappointment and enjoy the prize at the end. Good Luck.

Loopie
  • 19th Sep 2011 10:22pm
hi loopie thanks for your kind words, im having a break at the moment got a little dehearted with each month, but my little man is now 5 and im enjoying every precious moment with him and will keep...

Good luck in the furure with extending your family. Sometimes you fall pregnant when you don't have thwe stress of trying.
For now enjoy enjoy your son, at least you have been blessed with one healthy child.

jen2973
  • 19th Sep 2011 02:12pm
I have suffer miscarriages and an Ectopic pregnancy, and the best advice I could give you, is don't blame yourself.
It would be wise to talk to your Doctor, as there could be an underlying...

hi loopie thanks for your kind words, im having a break at the moment got a little dehearted with each month, but my little man is now 5 and im enjoying every precious moment with him and will keep trying again keeping positive buts its hard

ctillyer
  • 6th Jul 2011 11:25am

I suffered two miscarriages in between two successful pregnancies, so I know how disconcerting it can be. I had no trouble with getting pregnant before and then suddenly I lost two in a row. After those two miscarriages I had a healthy baby girl, so I put it down to those two pregnancies were lost because nature knew they weren't quite right and saved me the heartache of having a full-term pregnancy end in sorrow.

Of course, it meant that I hired a doppler to give me peace of mind for the first few months, until I could feel the baby kick and move about. Once that happened I relaxed and enjoyed the pregnancy just as much as I did the one before the miscarriages.

jen2973
  • 26th Jul 2011 02:50pm
Sorry, I forgot to add there that the first miscarriage was at 6 weeks and the second at 10 weeks, which was much harder than the first as I had to have a curet with the second one.

hi my fist one was at 4 weeks then my 2nd was at 8weeks so i look at it as a positrive that i got further along hoping the next goes all the way :)

jen2973
  • 26th Jul 2011 02:47pm
Sorry, I forgot to add there that the first miscarriage was at 6 weeks and the second at 10 weeks, which was much harder than the first as I had to have a curet with the second one.

hi ctillyer thanks for you kidness its good to hear that it goes around with evryone at least i have my little boy whos 5 going to school next year so im foccusing on the next adventure if it happens it happens again if not im very lucky for what ive got now cheers :)

ctillyer
  • 6th Jul 2011 11:26am
I suffered two miscarriages in between two successful pregnancies, so I know how disconcerting it can be. I had no trouble with getting pregnant before and then suddenly I lost two in a row. After...

Sorry, I forgot to add there that the first miscarriage was at 6 weeks and the second at 10 weeks, which was much harder than the first as I had to have a curet with the second one.

ctillyer
  • 6th Jul 2011 11:23am

I suffered two miscarriages in between two successful pregnancies, so I know how disconcerting it can be. I had no trouble with getting pregnant before and then suddenly I lost two in a row. After those two miscarriages I had a healthy baby girl, so I put it down to those two pregnancies were lost because nature knew they weren't quite right and saved me the heartache of having a full-term pregnancy end in sorrow.

Of course, it meant that I hired a doppler to give me peace of mind for the first few months, until I could feel the baby kick and move about. Once that happened I relaxed and enjoyed the pregnancy just as much as I did the one before the miscarriages.

isaacsmum
  • 2nd Jul 2011 08:10pm

Do not give up......I'd miscarried 3 times before we had our baby girl. I know it is hard but take heart in the knowledge that a miscarriage is natures way of sorting out a baby that isnt healthy enough to grow full term. It's so easy to get anxious with anticipation when you're trying to conceive. Relax as much as you can and lower your expectations - that's when the miracle happens! Best of luck to you.

jen2973
  • 26th Jul 2011 02:43pm
Do not give up......I'd miscarried 3 times before we had our baby girl. I know it is hard but take heart in the knowledge that a miscarriage is natures way of sorting out a baby that isnt healthy...

thanks for your advice every info i get gives me more hope for the next preganancy cheers :)

Eva
  • 15th Jun 2011 09:37pm

I feel for you. I experienced several miscarriages before being able to carry my daughter to term. My problem was a deficiency in the hormome that helps the baby to implant in the womb. Like you my losses were early in the pregnancy.
Don't lose heart there may be a solution for you.

leasy3579
  • 16th Feb 2015 11:56am
I feel for you. I experienced several miscarriages before being able to carry my daughter to term. My problem was a deficiency in the hormome that helps the baby to implant in the womb. Like you...

My aunty endured 3 miscarriages before she was told she wouldnt have children. She didntgive up though. She went along and had a child who tragicaly passed away three weeks later. 2 years on she has had another little girl who is now 5 years old. She also has a 3 year old boy and a set of gorgeous twin boys who have just turned 1. I myself was a pill baby. My mother went through 4 years of pills and tests to be able to fall pregnant with me. Point is. Dont give up. My aunty beat the odds of being told she would never have a living child and now has 4. It took a lot of heart ache but she got there. My mother also.

Eva
  • 27th Jun 2011 04:52pm
hi eva thanks for your words of wisdom, did your doctor find out these rsults for you about your deficiency or did your gyno find that out as all my gyno did was take blood samples and the results...

Hi Jen, My doctor studied my cycle which had always been short 21 to 28 days and then became long over 33 to 35 days and he also took tests. It was not a belief shared by other Doctors and as it was some years ago I can't remember exactly what what was done. My daughter is now 25 . He was my second doctor, the first didn't even want to help. Amazing how little has changed in all these years. Progesterone may have been the problem I think. I remember having to start treatment immediately after having a blood test to confirm pregnancy in the very early stages. By early stages I mean having the test when I was a couple of days overdue. Go to your gyno and do not settle for bland words, ask what tests can be done. I hope you find a Doctor who will listen, its difficult losing a baby at any stage. Will be thinking of you.

jen2973
  • 27th Jun 2011 03:55pm
I feel for you. I experienced several miscarriages before being able to carry my daughter to term. My problem was a deficiency in the hormome that helps the baby to implant in the womb. Like you...

hi eva thanks for your words of wisdom, did your doctor find out these rsults for you about your deficiency or did your gyno find that out as all my gyno did was take blood samples and the results were fine he just said to keep trying and the two things to remember practice and perserverance haha :)

stretch
  • 14th Jun 2011 12:40pm

before you got pregnant did you visit the dr with the dad of the baby and get blood tested to check for any disadvantages
try bed rest and no exercise
but
listen to the drs and dont be scared to get a second opinion
sorry for the loss

jen2973
  • 27th Jun 2011 03:43pm
before you got pregnant did you visit the dr with the dad of the baby and get blood tested to check for any disadvantages
try bed rest and no exercise
but
listen to the drs and dont...

hi stretch thnks for your words of wisdom i only got a check up myself dad didnt come ididnt even think about him, im looking at getting another opinion from a gyno thanks again :)

danni
  • 16th May 2011 05:08pm

Hi. I also suffered two miscarriages, both around the 12wks mark & I understand your questions & I know its hard for there is never an answer to WHY? I was able to fall pregnant both times after each miscarriage around 4 6mths later. I was strict on myself & took it extra care & was able to carry both those pregnancy full term. When I had a procedure when my youngest was 8mths the gyno told me I had endomitriosus (sorry don't know how to spell) & that sometimes can cause miscarriages but also being my 3rd & 4th child I also suffered a prolapse which gave me stricter bed rest. So to give you a piece of mind maybe ask your gyno for a proper check, I know they don't like to make assumptions after only 2 miscarriages but why suffer more then 2 when that is heartbreaking enough only to find later on there might be something small on the inside that can be treated & you are able to carry full term... Hope this helps & good luck.... Danni :)

jen2973
  • 17th May 2011 02:43pm
Hi. I also suffered two miscarriages, both around the 12wks mark & I understand your questions & I know its hard for there is never an answer to WHY? I was able to fall pregnant both times after...

hi danni thanks for your words of wisdom there great. im seeing my gyno on friday to get back the blood test results form 6wks ago and maybe they may have found something else i might have to take while trying , yes i will ask him to have a look at me as when i saw him before he said that he wouldnt even look at me as they only look further after 3 m/c, thanks again jenny :)

Anonymous
  • 13th May 2011 09:37am

im 22 an have had for misscarriges since the age of sixtten misscarried to ex hubby then we split went on rebound and boom preg now twenty two weeks gone and baby is fine but very small as specialist has told me im due sep 2011 and scared but looking foward to it this was so out of the blue just give ur body time to heal and dnt try if its ment to be its ment to be even tho i know its heartbreakingn hope works out for u

jen2973
  • 17th May 2011 02:36pm
Hi. I also suffered two miscarriages, both around the 12wks mark & I understand your questions & I know its hard for there is never an answer to WHY? I was able to fall pregnant both times after...

hi kimby thanks for your words of wisdom they all help, gee you have been through alot your self good luck with your little precious angel and everything goes well for you, thanks again practice makes perfect hey :)

shapaka
  • 4th May 2011 11:11am

Hi Jen, i am so sorry for your loss...i know all to well how u must be feeling. I too myself have suffered a miscarriage and two ectopic pregnancies one after the other.The ectopic pregnancies were probably the worst kick in the gut especially the fact that i had one fallopian tube removed after the first surgery i had. It is very hard to deal with when your body rejects pregnancies and its difficult to explain to people the emotional loss and damage it leaves with u, which i never had experienced until that happened to me. I am pretty lucky because i have 2 healthy boys already but we are still want to have one last try gor a baby girl.Dont give up hope because sometimes for whatever reason, our bodies are just not ready to carry a little bub. give yourself sometime to get emotionally stronger and just try again. Even tho i have now just one fallopian tube, my gyno has told me that its still not impossible to conceive. I wish u all the luck and send much love and hugs your way, you will be just fine.

jen2973
  • 17th May 2011 02:32pm
Hi Jen, i am so sorry for your loss...i know all to well how u must be feeling. I too myself have suffered a miscarriage and two ectopic pregnancies one after the other.The ectopic pregnancies were...

hi shapaka thanks for your kind words , there great any incouragement i get to keep going really helps, my little boy matthew whos now 5 said the other day he wants a little baby and i said im trying god love his little soul, im going back to my gyno on friday to get back blood test results so maybe they may have picked up on something more i may need to take while trying, its just hard waiting for the peroid to arrive each month so hoping it just wont come at all, and hugs and love back to you and your journey back for your next one to keep me updated on your progress :) jen

silv
  • 2nd May 2011 11:50am

I can only empathise with you b/c i have never had a miscarriage. My dear old mum used to say to women trying to get pregnant eat one egg per day and an occasional glass of red wine (only prior to pregnancy)
I sincerely wish you all the best

jen2973
  • 3rd May 2011 01:17pm
I can only empathise with you b/c i have never had a miscarriage. My dear old mum used to say to women trying to get pregnant eat one egg per day and an occasional glass of red wine (only prior to...

hi silv thanks for your words of wisdom any advice helps me feel better about becoming pregnate, but hey all the old words of wisdom advice from mums and nannas are the best advice i will try it thanks again
jenny :)

Doors
  • 29th Apr 2011 06:06pm

My 1st 2 pregnancies ended in miscarriage, 1st at 9 wks, follwed by7 weeks. I had a number of tests that did show some possible abnormalties, but nothing concrete. I read that special care and attention from your ob. helped, so i changed doctors. The new doctor saw me every couple of weeks in the 1st trimester. I took low dose asprin for the first 17 wks and while trying to concieve. Although extremely anxious, I had two girls 2 yrs apart..
My next 2 pregancies ended in miscarriages at 4 weeks, followed by a boy.
I gave up all hope of being able to have any children and never took it for granted that I would be able to any of my children. But here I am now, exhausted, caring for 3 great kids, and loving it.

jen2973
  • 1st May 2011 12:36pm
My 1st 2 pregnancies ended in miscarriage, 1st at 9 wks, follwed by7 weeks. I had a number of tests that did show some possible abnormalties, but nothing concrete. I read that special care and...

hi doors thanks for your reply, im seeing my gyno in 3weeks to get back blood test reults maybe they may show something else that i may need to be taking as i only take the folic acid at the moment, my gyno didnt even check me over as he said that they only class 3 m/c as a reacurrent and he dont check out anyone until 3 so the only thing he did was get me to see him in 6weeks, do you think i should seek out another gynos opininon do you think that they might look at me different as my gyno hasnt told me anything i didnt allready no etc that with age as im only 38 i declines bla bla and that m/c are nautural. my doctor who refered me to the gyno said to also take asprin as it will help with preventing the next m/c as it helps thin the blood and you took it while tyring to concieve also maybe i need that too, i will ask my gyno when i see him as i have a few questions for him that he didnt answer , also what do you think about those tests you can buy from the chemist that tell you when your ovulating did you try any of those as i kinder keen but dont want to be disapointed any more than each month when they come and the added stress waiting. my gyno also said that next time when i fall to get a test done at the doctor even if im 1 week late and to get this test done which will keep an eye on the development of the baby so thats something to look forward to. Sorry ive been blabbing too much as every opinion helps me get more positive for the next pregrancy as i didnt get any info back from my gyno so this helps, if you could get back to me about some of my questions that would be great thanks heaps again jenny :)

LisaL79
  • 21st Apr 2011 01:16pm

i know a few people who have had miscariages from genetic problems between them and partner. Also one who has had a number of DNC's over the years and it made her ueterus to "loose" to carry. I had a miscarriage of sorts, when I fell pregnant with my second, they found 2 eggs sacs. I miscarried one of the twins at 10 weeks. It was fortunate in a way as there were other complications that arose and we both almost died during the birth. I do mourn the loss of that twin, especially since I can no longer have any children.

Always remember, you can fall pregnant (a plus) and you are still young enough to have healthy children. The universe gives you what you can cope with.

jen2973
  • 21st Apr 2011 03:15pm
i know a few people who have had miscariages from genetic problems between them and partner. Also one who has had a number of DNC's over the years and it made her ueterus to "loose" to carry. I had...

Hi lisa thanks for your words of wisdom every bit helps with my 1st m/c i got too 4wks and my second one over a month ago i got to 8weeks and so i havent had to do anyhing as it has basically disolved itself and i didnt need any help. But at least i can fall pregnate so hoping my next aint too far away. I even saw a gyno and he didnt tell me anything i didnt allready no about the age declines and that they dont class a recurring m/c until you have four thats when they look into it further my gyno said. But he did get me to take blood and see him in 4wks time so maybe something may come up in the reults. As i only take folic acid the gyno said i didnt need anything else maybe the results may tell me otherwise. Also have you heard that taking evening primrose oil helps prepare the uterus for pregnancy as a friend who had ivf twins told me. So im gonna check that out with him also maybe also take the blackmores concieve pregnancy tablets may give me some thing else that im needing. Only a few weeks to see the gyno hoping he may find something otherwise its back to practice makes perfect, also have you tried any of the fertility sign tests to see when you can practice from the chemist, maybe that may also help me but i would hate to wait for that reults what do you think.
Thanks again jenny :)

sh
  • 10th Apr 2011 04:14pm

Sorry for your losses. I had a m/c July last yr then April this year and the specialist put it down to bad luck. My close friend has two healthy girl but since then has hd 2 m/c's. During my 2nd pregancy I also had all the symptoms morning sickness etc and I took that as a good sign but then things turned wrong. It is true 1 in 4 pregnancies end in m/c but that doesn't mean you won't be able to have another successful pregancy.

jen2973
  • 11th Apr 2011 04:59pm
Sorry for your losses. I had a m/c July last yr then April this year and the specialist put it down to bad luck. My close friend has two healthy girl but since then has hd 2 m/c's. During my 2nd...

Hi sh, thanks for your reply its great getting different feedback as after seeing the gyno a few weeks back he said that as well but i already new most of the things he was discussing about age blalaa bla, gee you would think that they would at least give you a check over as mine said i only look further after 3 m/c thats when we look further but he did get blood taken about 8 different samples so maybe he might have found something but im not too excited, so hoping each month goes fast and ill find out the good or bad news, hoping we both have full term pregnancys next time, hey have you heard about this a friend suggested to try evening primrose oil as it helps prepare your uterus as she went through ivf, do you reckon i should seek out another gyno or wait and see what may happen. cheers

jen2973
  • 11th Apr 2011 04:58pm
Sorry for your losses. I had a m/c July last yr then April this year and the specialist put it down to bad luck. My close friend has two healthy girl but since then has hd 2 m/c's. During my 2nd...

Hi sh, thanks for your reply its great getting different feedback as after seeing the gyno a few weeks back he said that as well but i already new most of the things he was discussing about age blalaa bla, gee you would think that they would at least give you a check over as mine said i only look further after 3 m/c thats when we look further but he did get blood taken about 8 different samples so maybe he might have found something but im not too excited, so hoping each month goes fast and ill find out the good or bad news, hoping we both have full term pregnancys next time, hey have you heard about this a friend suggested to try evening primrose oil as it helps prepare your uterus as she went through ivf, do you reckon i should seek out another gyno or wait and see what may happen. cheers

NurseK
  • 21st Mar 2011 01:03am

I'm very sorry for your loss :o(.

I haven't had a miscarriage myself so I don't know if this will help but :- I am an emergency nurse and just want to reassure you that m/c is so very common, especially in the early weeks of pregnancy. There is NOTHING that you have done or didn't do to cause the m/c so you need to know that. I'm very sorry that you have lost this baby too. I wish you all the best of luck in your next pregnancy - the odds are definitely in your favour that you will go on in the future to have a successful pregnancy. If you do m/c again and it is with the same partner then you might go on to have some genetic testing done but really after 2 it would be unusual just because of how common m/c is. Unfortunately it doesn't make it hurt any less that you have lost your baby but hopefully you will find comfort knowing that you share a similar journey as many many women; who also did nothing wrong and do not deserve it. I hate it when patients m/c when they haven't got any babies or children to go and cuddle - it seems to make it so much harder :o(. All the very best in your next pregnancy... shall send you loads of sticky thoughts!!

jen2973
  • 22nd Mar 2011 02:39pm
I'm very sorry for your loss :o(.

I haven't had a miscarriage myself so I don't know if this will help but :- I am an emergency nurse and just want to reassure you that m/c is so very...

thanks kylie
wow thanks for your words of wisdom and wern't i lucky getting an emergency nurse for my first reply for help
im actually going next wednesday to see the gyno the day after my 38th birthday on tuesday so hoping that might give me a extra luck
i will let you no how i go then hoping its something as tightening my pelvic floor muscles as i remember when i had a pap smear last time the nurses told me i had really loose muscles then so maybe, but at least i can fall pregnant so theres a positive,
plus i have a little man matthews whos just turned 5 so hoping his eagerness and excitement may help me for the next instalment in our lives and he gives the best kisses and cuddles which has helped us along the way
thanks again will chat soon jen :)

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