Why, When & How??
Posted by: Lynstar59
3rd Dec 2012 10:55am
When did we get so obsessed with the way we look? We are who we are & no amount of makeup, surgery, dieting or other means is going to make us feel any better inside about ourselves. You either have self confidence or you dont. Spending all you money isn't going to change that. Grow up & donate the time,energy & money spend on this eternal quest for beauty on something worthwhile - a charity, volunteering, coach a under 12's football team whatever your mind can conceive. Stop making yourself the centre of the universe.
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Ol
To be able to spend your time and energy on someone or something other than yourself you have to be confident enough to step foot outside your front door. Some people constantly battle with their personal appearance and emotional demons that have resulted from people telling them they are worthless to this world. You have to be content with yourself to be able to help others. If you are trying to encourage someone else and tell them they are worth everything when you don't believe those words when you tell the to yourself, then they won't want to hear a word of it. Sometimes you need to do something for yourself so you'll be able to do something for another!
Sil sil
People are just becoming more superficial & all those Kardashian type shows don't help. I love seeing someone who smiles, is relaxed & positive enter the room, couldn't think of anything more beautiful, hence why our kids are beautiful because their face doesn't carry stress & anger!
Lynstar59
So true Sil. Kids are so pure so happy so innocent not a mean self centred bone in their bodies.
ralph48
I agree; it is low self confidence; But one had to pick one-self back up and hold their head up high again; and not let anyone make them feel otherwise.....hard to do but not unachieveable.
I am not sure if it is the centre of the universe; that might be how one is perceived; but how others self-righteousness is towards accepting you in their world.
Personally, I was a professional, I was respectful of myself and then became obsessed when I felt I 'did not fit' into my boyfriends family. Now as my husband, after 30 years, his father finally admits he never accepted me....so all those years, I would mention, to be told my imagination; is now a reality.....but I am stronger now, it took for the father in law to be honest; for me to open my eyes, and move on for myself to become my own person once again. But now, my children find it hard.
Wattobird
You have to put yourselves in their shoes. I admit, yes there are those girls who take this stuff to far. But you should think about why they are doing it. That girl with the caked up face? Maybe she has an abusive relationship, and is trying to hide the bruises. That girl puking everything she eats? Maybe she got rejected by her diet-crazed family. That girl stuffing her face? She's depressed, trying to deal with problems you know nothing about. If you have self-esteem, you're fine. If you don't, it takes hard work and a lot of time to get it up to a good level. Maybe these girls aren't trying to be the center of attention. Maybe they're just trying to be accepted, or maybe they're trying to hide. When everyone is wearing bright colours, its the one in black that stands out. The one that is so obviously trying to hide that it becomes almost impossible.
But im not against those who stand out. Some are just more confident when they're wearing something that isn't "normal".
So keep your mind open before you judge.
Lynstar59
Hi Wattobird- I agree totally with what your saying it sounds like we may have similar problems,value & views on the world. That is why I said what I did. Society puts so much pressure on us to fit "The Norm" but what is it? I have been in many of those pairs of shoes & that's what makes me angry, we are who we are & trying to fit the mould doesn't work & blows our confidence down the drain if we have any left after being kicked from pillar to post. Believe me my mind is open.
Anonymous
diets don't work, & cost money. Can make you feel sick.
Anonymous
Don't know ask society.
Anonymous
That's true just be confident with yourself beauty doesn't define us we define beauty
Lenmontano
I agree! I also believe that when you are into a cause, or you're doing something that you really enjoy doing which does not only benefit you but the society of other people, that makes you beautiful and gives you more substance. The desire to be beautiful in terms of how we look or how we dress are only superficial. But beaut that goes beyond the physical is a beauty that is eternal.