Small weddings
Posted by: Tracy
21st May 2012 10:00am
It is becoming more common to have a small wedding as sometimes the parents cannot contribute and it is too huge an expense for a new couple. What are your thoughts on this?
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Suzitonto
Hasn't the big fat wedding thing really got out of hand? I have 2 children in their 20s that may one day tie their respective knots, and, you know I would be happy with whatever made them feel most comfortable about their wedding day. It really is time to stop trying to keep up with the Jones and Kardashians and plan the day that you and your nearest and dearest will treasure in their memories. Forget about the third cousins and aunties you never see, it's your day.
TILL
Small weddings are a delight, everyone gets to talk with each other. There is no need to go to all that expense, please make sure that money is put to good use, towards a car or the house, not wasted on the trimmings of a wedding.
For example, - why do people feel they have to feed everybody with such expensive food, - where is the fun in that ?? - you all sit at tables, sure they look nice, but are you close enough to be able to hear what the person opposite you is saying, with the music so loud, you cant understand any of it anyway. As my husband said once. ' oh it was a lovely evening, you couldnt hear what anyone was telling you,because of the loud music and you couldnt see them anyway because the lighting was too dim, and you couldnt go and help yourself to what lovely food you would like, because they kept bringing little tit bits of unrecognisable foods around on big trays, and the coffee was cold before it got to you., and that was that."
Well is that an indication of appreciation for those planning a wedding feast ??
People do not expect to be given a lavish presentation of foods. -- so --
why not try this, -- A long table , dressed with a nice white table cloth, some flowers as centre decoration, some lovely candlesticks each end, - and laden with a lovely assortment of casseroles, plus a big dish or two, or three, of special fried rice from the chinese takeaway , crusty bread buns, and a couple of fruit platters, -- what more could you want, - delicious !!! and with everyone helping themselves to their delight. Big jugs of fruit punch, and some jugs of cordials as well , - and dont forget the jugs of iced water that so many prefer anyway. ------- followed by the sweets, ----
Pavlovas, Triflles, Jellies, whipped cream, Fruit Salad, and the Fruit platter.
Then to serve with the Tea and Coffees, Lamingtons, Slices, and bowls of nuts. with the Wedding Cake pieces and some after dinner mints,
-- So what about the cost ?? Friends and Family would delight in bringing a casserole., which can be brought hot in carry bags, by those living close enough to do this, and if the hall has an oven or microwave, to reheat if necessary, it works very well. The Sweets and Slices can all be made a day or two before.
O r - Why not bowls of assorted salads with cold meats, and delicious home made mayonaise, mustard pickles etc etc -- simpler still ??
O r - for something much simpler -- a delightful afternoon tea, the guests would love pretty cups and saucers, beautiful table cloths, candles and flower decorations/.
Ribbon sandwiches, mini quiches, spicy meat balls, salad pieces on tooth pics, plus other savoury pieces, a salad platter with cheeses, olives etc. dips and bickies, cheese sticks, chicken skewers, etc etc
Lamingtons, cup cakes on pretty stands, jelly cakes, and the Wedding Cake too. etc etc.
mmmhhhhh ---- a party, ---- all sounds pretty good.?
And what about the bride, just remember when buying your wedding gown. it probably has about 6 to 10 metres of fabric in it, work that out roughly, if that fabric costs $10 mtr thats only $60 to $100 if it costs $30 mtr it is still only $300,plus the dressmaking costs. unless it has a huge amount of fabric in the skirt, plus you are only paying for the extra handsewing, beading etc, that it may have on it. so be ware , of those very expensive ones. Hand beading and embroidery will cost more. plus the underskirts. just do your maths.
If you choose a skirt and top, the fitting is so much more simpler, and also the top may be dyed and used after.
Hilary
If it what the bride and groom want I see nothing wrong with a small wedding or geeting married in a registry office. It's the bride and groom's day. They have to think what is best and what memories they want to look back on. Same with big, expensive weddings, if that's what they want and can afford it. .. fine. I don't think parents should have to pay. It should be up to the couple but if parents want to help out that is good. i hear of people spending 30, 40,000 or more on weddings (. Ordinary, everyday people, not celebrities. ) Personally I'd rather put that money towards buying a house or my children's education.
CAT17
Hi Tracy, I think smalll weddings are lovely and special. I had a small wedding and my elder daughter did too. I had a simple sit-down dinner with close family and friends (50). It was lovely being able to mingle with everyone after the meal. My daughter had her ceromony on a beautiful beach in Perth and a very special lunch in a private room in a brand new hotel at the beach suburb. Everyone enjoyed the fabulous food and the fact that we all knew each other and had come from interstate to be there made for a very special day and a wonderful reunion). My daughter's younger sister was her bridemaid and they walked up to us where we were waiting in the seaside park holding hands! My husband and I were so proud and happy to see our girls together like that on such a happy day. There were 20 of us 6 being family the rest close friends. "Good things come in small packages"!