Pregnancy & Parenting

Being a full time parent can be streesing

Pregnancy & Parenting

Posted by: Pumbaa

14th Oct 2011 05:20pm

anyone out there who is in this position, dont give up just carry on and do what you do. Our kids look up to us all so we need to be strong.


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Lenmontano
  • 11th Jul 2013 11:45pm

I am now a full time mom, after 7 years of having a career. I thought having a job, doing routine reports, and beating deadlines for paper works are the worst when it comes to the stress level impact but I was wrong. Having two hyper energetic boys (a three year old, and a year old), inside a house could spell a real disaster, especially for a newbie like me, in terms of parenting. I was so used to having my mom and my sisters look after the kids, so now that we've transferred and all the support I have in looking after them are gone, my world turned upside down. It was an extra challenge for me. Now, I am glad I am slowly getting the hang of it.

Anonymous
  • 7th Jul 2013 07:15pm

I agree that it can be stressful but if you plan things right you can have so much fun with your kids. I have 3 and love having them try and do lots of things themselves. We all do the washing together, we cook together we do so many things that realistically mums normally do on their own without help. I believe that the more the kids help out with the more time we get to go and play or do something together. 15 mins a day of housework is all we do, we do one cook up once a week and then plan our meals for the week. The kids love the input and we have that many whiteboards around our house people would think we were at school. We really just like to have the kids involved in everything in the household.

Alison72
  • 26th Feb 2013 07:22pm

Yep being a stay home mum is challanging but worth it, i have just sent my youngest to prep so I have none at home now. so ends one chapter now entering another with helping out at school.

Anonymous
  • 20th Sep 2012 04:04pm

yes this is very true and they will end up loking upto you more in the future just love and nurture them and they will grow up to respect and nurture you when you need it

Anonymous
  • 19th Sep 2012 12:38pm

Yes it can be stressful sometimes, especially when you have a young child and they dont sleep very often and you cant get much done, but i love and enjoy being a mum and wouldnt have it any other way. Just need to take a deep breath sometimes andall will be okay :)

freewealth
  • 14th Apr 2012 04:31pm

I've been a full time mum for about 2 years now. It's not an easy job to do and as much as I can say that it's a great privilege to be in such a position, I have to get back to work. Starting next week. I'm sure I will miss being a full time mum!

Monts
  • 28th Mar 2012 10:25am

I'm a full time mum to my 9 month old son but i constantly have my partner telling me that i dont do any anything all day and that i should find a job and put him in daycare. I also live at home with my parents at the moment and they tell me i dont do enough around here when i actually do the best i can inbetween my sons routines... This stresses me out to no end and i have no idea what to do about it anymore my argument that i wanna stay home and watch my son grow is irrelevant to them they dont see how much i am going to miss out on by putting him in daycare... What do you think? Do you get told that being a stay at home mum is not a full time job? I just had this rant to get other parents views on this =)

lcca
  • 5th Mar 2013 12:46pm
I'm a full time mum to my 9 month old son but i constantly have my partner telling me that i dont do any anything all day and that i should find a job and put him in daycare. I also live at home...

I am a full time mum of a 3 month old baby and have been told by my husband that I am not doing anything at all. I've been doing all the household chores but he doesn't seemed to see what I've done. He didn't say that I have to look for work though but he'll call me lazy. I just cry when he's at work. It is very stressful. I am doing all my best to be the best mother and a wife but I am not appreciated :-)

Anonymous
  • 5th Sep 2012 02:36pm
I'm a full time mum to my 9 month old son but i constantly have my partner telling me that i dont do any anything all day and that i should find a job and put him in daycare. I also live at home...

Monts .. You do sadly miss out on so much. My son is in daycare two days a week (Mondays and Fridays) and on those afternoons when we pick him up, he has stood by himself and took a few steps =[. Being a SAHP IS a full time job. It's the hardest and most stressful but most amazing and rewarding job in the world. I hope you find peace in your situation soon xoxo

Toni
  • 17th Apr 2012 11:06pm
I'm a full time mum to my 9 month old son but i constantly have my partner telling me that i dont do any anything all day and that i should find a job and put him in daycare. I also live at home...

I have a little plaque on the wall that says, "Nobody notices what I do until I don't do it." I agree too that sometimes it's just not worth it financially to go back to work. All that busy-ness and running around getting what I call "hurry sickness" and you're really no better off. And don't forget about how day care kids seem to get sick a lot - and then the whole family gets sick too. When you say "they tell me I don't do enough around here," maybe sorting out exactly who does what and when would help? Maybe there could be a system of taking turns at chores? I didn't put my daughter into day care until she was 18 months old, and then it was only for 2 days a week. (As far as I know, every parent is entitled to two days a week day care even if they're not working.) This gave her fun time with other people and toddlers, and gave me time to really get my house in order, have dentist appointments and so forth. I didn't return to regular work until she started school, and I will only work school hours because I will always be there for her. It works for me.

Lee
  • 13th Apr 2012 11:21pm
I'm a full time mum to my 9 month old son but i constantly have my partner telling me that i dont do any anything all day and that i should find a job and put him in daycare. I also live at home...

My partner used to joke around about this til I got sick for 3 day & he had to stay home with 2 children & do everything himself then the jokecwas no longer funny lol. However It is something that only you and your partner can agree on. When we weighed it all up staying home turned out a little bit cheaper. Cost of childcare, pay rate of The job that you would consider doing the loss of your centerlink payment and any benefits you get with it. once all the calculations are down on paper you may be able to show that staying home is the best choice. being a stay home mum is a busy but rewarding job. Me and my partner won't have it any other way.

lili
  • 18th Feb 2012 12:26pm

some days i complain why i'm a full-time parent. its hard work and no one can imagine our situation unless you actually be in it. when things are too stressing, i pray. it helps.

Anonymous
  • 14th Feb 2012 08:10pm

yes its our strength that would get us through the stressful times. I know its made me a much stronger mother and person

Starlite5
  • 29th Dec 2011 08:52pm

OMG! Raising kids is right up there on the stress-o-meter and with 3 teens, one pre-teen and a parrot for a 2 year old and on some days when it gets too much I lock myself in my room and bawl my eyes out but after the sniffles have subsided and the tears have dried I hear a knock on the door and they all pile in with hugs and sheepish apologies about giving me a hard time and a massive cup of tea....no I wouldn't trade them for the world.

Anonymous
  • 22nd Nov 2011 01:52am

Hey there!

I am a full time dad. Been doing it for over 4 yrs now. Absolutely love it. I feel very blessed to be doing this. Not very many fathers would get this priceless opportunity to hang out with the kids 24/7. Of course they have their moments but hey, it comes with the job.. Another reason why I have so much respect for all the mothers, special mention of my Late-mum. It is the hardest job in the world yet most rewarding. I always used to say that if this was a paid job. I would`ve been a billionaire right now...lol.
My hard working beautiful wife and I have 3 beautiful chipmunks. 2 boys and a girl. She bosses her older brothers around. All under the age of 9. I have to say they drive me up the wall sometimes but they are just being kids. And I love spending time with them. They make us smile. They make us angry. They make us scream. At the end of the day, they are our kids and we just can`t imagine the world without them. Bless all the mums and dads out there who are doing a good job with their kids. Love your work. Don`t forget they see and know everything you do with them and they respect you for it. The little great things that you do for them. it sticks with them for the rest of their lives. So make sure they earn your respect. That`s very important!!! And always smiling. Because it is indeed the Best Job In The World!!!

rach
  • 18th Nov 2011 01:41pm

it totally is but the good time out way the bad by far and i wouldn't have it any other way

bindy
  • 22nd Oct 2011 12:11pm

hi,yes i agree,dont give up and stay strong,i know very well its easier said then done,i am a mum at a 10yr old and 2 yr old and altho i have a partner its still very hard as he is unwell with a brain tumour so pretty do it all on my own and really struggle from day to day but know i have to stay strong

paradox
  • 21st Oct 2011 10:20pm

Hi to all you girls, can I suggest that you try and get your blokes involved. let them take some of the tasks and you'll find it get's easier. I done it with my girl and got a lot closer to my kids. I wish you all the very best and enjoy your kids. cheers from a granddad.

lissa
  • 20th Oct 2011 09:24am

So true, my kids really stress me sometimes and when thier dad gets home i am ready to walk out the door and go for a walk but when i get home am all refreshed and ready to go again, I really wouldn't have it any other way. As parents we are the best rolemodels for our children!!! Love my kids!!! And also love my JOB as a MUMMY!!!

Rivertroy
  • 14th Jun 2013 01:25am
So true, my kids really stress me sometimes and when thier dad gets home i am ready to walk out the door and go for a walk but when i get home am all refreshed and ready to go again, I really...

Being a mum can really stresse me out some days manly when the kids dont get there own way. Being a parent isnt always fun but your children need you they need to learn that life is hard some times and u don't always get what you want, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind not in a mean or nasty way but a way that makes them safe. Your not the only 1 that gets stresst so don't think you are and many of us still have a hard time dealing with it but never forget your not alone

Anonymous
  • 18th Oct 2011 02:37pm

You are so right on that one. We are there role models right from the get go! I think the key is to try to balance the stress with the happy times. Easier said than done sometimes!

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