Suicide in Nz

simla

As we all know, suicide is about depression. The recent discoveries about vitamin D and it's roll in depression leads you to think that the first thing we sholud do is get a vitamin D test. Cold countries(like NZ and Tasmania are notorious for their populations lack of vitamin D. As simple a thing as that could be the catalyst that changes the way a person views the world, there-by changing their perception of their situation.Things are not always as gloomy as they seem. The first step is to be able to see clearly- there may be light at the end of the tunnel.

Anonymous

I have two nephews who both took their own lives at an early age of 15 years old some 10 years ago. seperate reasons, seperate days, seperate ways but they both had the same results... I just wished I had had a chance to talk with them before all of this happened, I stongly believe that I would of made a difference because i was some one they both trusted and had respect for. unfortunately I was not around for them in their most time of need and not been here on those fatal days for both of them, I kinda failed them and now I can only assume what might have been..... I work in a service that works with at risk youth and I see potential in many of them to do some sort of harm of some kind to themselves and the challenge to keep them positive can be rather trying at times but having the right attitude and aproach certainly helps....need to empower our young and youth with love, faith , hope, direction to be able to take their place in the world as up standing citizens...

Sammbo

We found out (far too late) about the predictable warning signs of potential suicides.

Being considerate, very tidy and attending to detail were primary.

We were even warned that failed suicides will try again soon after.

What we didn't know was the cause... and we didn't recognise it.

We put it down to peer group pressure and the influences of the mass media.
Pressure on young, impressionable and immature minds that in many cases...that don't have the support of parents or feel they can ask questions.

Please be more involved with your kids.

Anonymous

I lost my son 4 years ago to suicide, the pain and shock are still with me. The worst thing now is how it has affected the relationship between the whole family. Please anyone, your life is far more important than any problem.Talk to
someone EVERYTHING can be sorted out.

Anonymous

most teens stick to their room but this is not always a sure sign. some teens before thinking of suicide will begin to inflict harm on themselfs an will start to wear long sleaved shirts to cover this up or long pants they will try to change their apparence in oder to try a new start and then they may begin to let themselfs go and not look after themselfs as they once did.
these are not always sure signs but they may help; if your a parent who has a teenager that is slowly cutting off from you do all that you can to keep the connection and do not pick fights this makes it worse and makes them feel like they are always doing the wrong thing and may not get of the hole. and dont say that its just a phase it could be more serious.
teen suicide is a major problem in nz i beleve as well and all parents can do is be their for their sons and daughters as this is when they need you the most, but the teens themselfs must get out of what ever they are facing and realise it will be over soon.

mccallmob

I live in a small town where sports rule and if you are not into sport then life can be tough. When a suicide happens as most of the people around will know there tends to be a wave of suicides after the first. Now my kids are adults I have learnt more as to the times that they were under emotional pressure and they would rather talk to anyone than their parents. They would talk to their peers or school counsellor. I feel guilty for their times of emotional pain when if they had felt able to discuss problems with me maybe their pain would not have been so deep. Perhaps more groups that people feel they could contact without the stigma associated with not coping mentally could help but where the funding would come from - heaven knows.

Trishy

It isn't just teenagers that commit suicide and a lot of the time there are no signs that they are going to do it.

My sister killed herself 7 years ago and she did it two days after her 46th birthday. She had 3 children and 3 grandchildren. Even to this day we have no idea why she did it. There were no signs that she was feeling down or suicidal. It is very hard on the family and friends left behind as you are always asking the question of why did they do it?

She was my sister, but the worst part of it is seeing my Mum's broken heart everyday as no matter what the age of your children they are still your babies.

Anonymous

It isn't just teenagers that commit suicide and a lot of the time there are no signs that they are going to do it.

My sister killed herself 7 years ago and she did it two days after her...

thanks for the sharing Trishy...

BOY

I've noticed its not just teens though in N.Z, also mature people are doing that, im a survivor of that point in my life, 17, married young, depressed, violence,alcohol, drugs, all that an i belived that to be at peace an feel good about myself to die was the answer, how wrong i was, i urge anyone that is feeling of going down that road, talk to some one, even if it is the hardest thing you have to do, Be strong an look up, because things do get better.

fragment

I've noticed its not just teens though in N.Z, also mature people are doing that, im a survivor of that point in my life, 17, married young, depressed, violence,alcohol, drugs, all that an i...

yes I believe what you have said boy,I have been involve with two young teenagers who tried to take their lives.And yes you are right about talking to someone.They (suicidle ) need to unload their problems to someone and for you to listen to them.My son and a nephew tried taking their lives but again it comes down to parenting skills if you are prepared to listen and not to judge them you can make a difference to their lives. Whats the most important thing on this earth whanau whanau family....

Anonymous

What a delicate subject. Suicide impacts on everyone around, I know this because my mother took her life after losing a stillborn when I was 11 yeaars old. Things were never the same after she died. we lived with our maternal grandfather and he was like a second parent for us. Because of circumstances that ensued dad married a woman who had an acid tongue and things got pretty bad, so bad that my sister and I ended up leaving dad and his new family. My sister went to live with our paternal grandparents and began a working life, I lived in the family home for another year and dad decided to send me to my maternal aunt and her family. I went through some rough times before finally falling pregnant to my 'then was' boyfriend and we got married. We have had almost 40 years together and have 5 adult children.

My mother's suicide at that time had ongoing recriminations that still affect us today. Dad passed away over 15 years ago and his wife died earlier this year. So talking about suicide, I know a thing or two. Not from personal experience in the 'first person' but by being a survivor through the school of life.

Sagitarius

Sometimes teens will give away possesions if they are planning suicide,

kaz

Ive noticed that teenagers tend to retreat to their bedroom and spend alot of time there as they dont want to be around people